when your (straight)crush dates your (straight) ex boyfriend...
Hi, I've got a question. I came out as bisexual about a year ago and now I'm starting to realize that I am attracted to more than just 'cis' males and females. I find that I am attracted to boys who dress as girls and girls who dress as boys (transvestites?). Also, I'm equally attracted to males and females that have an identity as the opposite sex (transgendered, I think?). Does that still make me bisexual? I don't really need a label or anything, but I'm just curious. Thanks! :)
Depends entirely on who you talk to, really. Personally, I think the word bisexual actually describes people who are attracted to strictly masculine men and feminine women, but that those people don’t really exist since gender is such a non-black and white thing. Pansexual is a great term :)
I found out a few days ago I'm Bi. I've considered myself straight my whole life but I've always found some guys to be attractive. I always wrote it off as simple admiration but I don't think it was. I think it was physical attraction. Now at 25, I've become aware of this attraction. I keep wondering if I'm kidding myself into thinking I'm bi. I've never been emotionally attracted to men and the idea of dating a guy is foreign to me but part of me wants to go on a date with a guy. Advice? Tim C
Huh, I’ve never really suggested (or tried) this before, but wouldn’t this be a great use of online dating? As long as you clearly communicate to your date that you’re questioning and they’re okay with that, I think a lot of bi people go through a phase of experimentation.
I came out sometime last year and one homophobic girl keeps saying I should "just call myself gay" when she doesn't understand that's not how it works .-. I'm not gay , I am attracted to both genders, I'm bisexual. not homosexual. also, everytime I talk about crushes on girls she calls it "unnatural". I don't know what to do or what I tell her ?? could you Give me some advice please ?
Tell her whatever you feel like, if you even want to spend any more time on her. I usually go with: “Hm… well I can fall in love with, not to mention enjoy fucking, girls and guys. So if you have another word for it, tell me, but for now I’m going to keep enjoying the shit out of being bi.” And then don’t bother with dumb bitches anymore.
"So… you’re gay, right?" #biproblems
So I've recently come out to a fair amount of close friends, as well as my mother, and told them I was bi. I told her, my friends as well, that I know for a fact I would be marrying a man (I'm a guy) and not a woman. I can't really explain how I know this, but I do. I would say that I like guys over girls 90% of the time, and it's that 10% that is keeping me from identifying as gay. A lot of people have a hard time seeing something that isn't monosexual, how can I explain this to people?
With exactly that many words :/ it’s sure hard to do because we don’t have anything close to the right vocabulary to describe the various types of attraction to different genders. Or you could just say, “I almost always like guys but there’s definitely a couple women who win me over.” If they still don’t let it rest and accept the way you see yourself, let it go unless they really matter to you.